John and I have been married about three and a half months now and we are settling into married life happily. We feel like two “old” married people, old as in “married a long time.” It feels so good to be together as we are.
John decided to move into my home which was what I wanted also. My home is bigger and it’s set up to be a good place for my dog, Koco, who has become “our” dog. She really loves John and he loves her, too.
I wanted to make room here for John so that he could have his personal possessions here in our home. I’ve lived here a long time and I’ve been alone in my home for over 12 years, which means I have lots of stuff all over the house. I’ve been working to get rid of things I don’t use or won’t ever need, and I’m making progress in freeing up space for John’s interests and hobbies. Of course this takes time, but we are having a great time putting our mark on the furnishings and making sure it really is “our” home.
One thing I did early on that gives me satisfaction that it was a good thing to do was about the breakfast bowls. Long ago I bought a blue bowl for me to use for my breakfast cereal, but I didn’t have another special bowl for John to use after our marriage. I asked him about his favorite color and he said it is green. I wanted to buy him a special green bowl, as nice as my special blue bowl. But there were no nice green cereal bowls that I could find.
Later when we went shopping together, I told him what I was trying to do. At first he said that I didn’t need to do that. He was okay with the usual everyday bowls that he used. But I wanted him to have a special bowl, too. I still couldn’t find a satisfactory green bowl, but then I saw two very nice bowls, white with a blue stripe around the top of the bowl. John agreed that it would be nice for both of us to have special bowls which are alike, and that’s what we did. I always feel very good as I set the breakfast table with our matching bowls. They are just a tiny bit bigger than the everyday bowls. In a way, it’s a silly little thing to do, but it’s the little things that mean something to each of us that keeps on cementing our bonding.
Little things which are invested with our own enjoyment and delight become building blocks of contentment and growing love. I’m glad that we chose and bought the bowls together.